Whether having siblings better prepares people for life as adults or if an only child has more of an advantage when it comes to growing up has not been proven by any studies as of yet, although both circumstances have unique advantages and disadvantages, RTFB reports.
While studies are inconclusive as to whether only children are more or less advantaged than others, those without siblings can have the benefit of being the centre of attention during their childhood, which might help with developing self-esteem, self-reliability and resilience. However, there is no sibling rivalry, competition or struggles to contend with; all of which can be character-building.
Being thrown into the family mix with siblings provides people with many skills that help in later life. With brothers and sisters, children have no other choice than to enter into a relationship with them. Relationships involve a lot of conflict management, negotiations, and disputes, but also reconciliations, companionship and fun. Teamwork skills also develop as children will sometimes work with their siblings as a unit in opposition to their parents.
Sharing and solidarity
Having siblings forces children to learn to share, both in terms of possessions and emotions (toys but also the time, attention and affection of the parents). Reluctantly or spontaneously, sharing is a big part of being one of several children and can foster generosity and openness in an adult.
There is also sometimes great solidarity between brothers and sisters. Two brothers who seem to be at each other’s throats all day will often stand together when one of them is challenged or punished. This can lead to feelings of security, knowing that someone will always have your back regardless – because they are family.
Disruption and abandonment
But there are disadvantages as well. Conflicts don’t always build positive skills. They can have devastating effects on families and can drive siblings apart.
The arrival of another child can also be disruptive. A first child can feel abandoned when the family grows and jealous as the newcomer takes up all the attention. These feelings can continue into adulthood.
So, relational experts say that while neither a single child nor one with siblings has a better chance of a successful life than the other, what is extremely important for both is that they have the love and support of their parents. That is one of the greatest assets when developing into an adult.
